My close friend Didi and I share a common character – we are highly ambitious women. It’s the one thing that puts us on a natural high. We’re both awake at 5am in the morning with the need to feed this ambition. It’s actually insane. It makes me wonder if the Bill Gates, Motsepes and Oprahs of this world also felt and went through the same torment whilst driven by this ambition. We get highly annoyed when we come across people that lack this same hunger. It’s ingrained in the framework of all humans! How can it not exist in every one of us? Maybe it does exist in all of us, but it is not exercised. There are many people in South Africa who are presented with great opportunities but they disregard them because they are happy to remain in a state of life called the “comfort zone.” Why would you want to perform at your average when you were designed and crafted to be so much more?
Ambition is good, in fact it is great. It is a purpose, hope, a desire, and is a God-given ability to exercise your true life purpose. It all starts as a dream. You see, there is a difference between someone who has big dreams and someone who dreams big. This dream develops and feeds into an ambition which needs to be exercised by trial and tribulation, by inspiration and perspiration, by faith and hope for triumph. You have to use your experiences to feed your ambition; also use it as a tool to assist those around you seeking it.
Ambition has its downside. It can exasperate you and make you want to scream! It’s often the cause of many sleepless nights. At times you’ll break out in tears not knowing why. It will feel like you’re the only person on a mission to succeed and everyone else is standing in your way. Ambition can cause a lot of people to despise you, want you to fail and intentionally make things difficult for you. We live in a country where people don’t want to be left behind and when you are excelling, it becomes a problem for the same people that were cheering you on in the beginning. They say people will criticize and stone you when you are doing good things, BUT do ‘good’ anyway.
Here’s the thing… regardless of the situation, you have to keep your chin up and persevere. No one said it was going to be easy. At times you will feel so close to your dream but yet so far from it too. You’ll know you are close when there are people who are set on making you fail because they’re stuck in their comfort zones. The higher you climb the corporate ladder, the lonelier it gets. I was once part of a large group of “close friends.” I never thought the same friends would be at the very head of my downfall. You will also learn that not everyone will be happy about your success. It’s the way of life, it shouldn’t be – but it is.
This is why Didi and I are still very close friends. I believe in friends who climb up the ladder with you and pull you up when you get tired and challenged by the next step. It’s proven to be better to have a few great friends who add value to your life and are passionate about the same thing, rather than to have a group of them that only values you when you play according to their ‘average’ – not only stuck in your comfort zone but stuck in theirs too.
Now that’s just a pity!
Written by an ambitiousDIVA!